Rekindling your emotions

Three steps towards progression

When was the last time you sat alone and thought deeply about your emotions? What about sharing them with someone else? The outward expressions commonly perceived in day-to-day life gives us a glimpse into other’s psyche. Paradoxically, when asked for advice we are often entangled in our nebulous conflict with our conscious and unconscious mind. Overloading one’s psycho-emotional bandwidth can dangerously lead to a tailspin or a slow submersion to the bottom. How do we rekindle and reshape our emotions to optimize our time on this earth with our family, friends, and yes that stranger that needs someone to talk to; not just superficially but deeply about her father’s death. Although, there is no panacea there are some steps that can lead you closer fighting your inner battles.

1. Meditation: While some people believe meditation results to be hyperbole it has scientific and historical backing. Meditation is simply mindfulness and is unique to each person. I, for example, have used it to understand my emotional origin at one moment and traced that back to an actionable event and started the road to reconnecting with my mother. Try asking yourself a pointed question and seeing where it originates from or simply “try” and clear your mind. There are numerous phone applications and subscriptions that have lesson plans if that’s your jam.

2. Recognize and accept that something is wrong: One approach is the transtheoretical model (pre-contemplation, contemplation, preparation, action, and maintenance). In pre-contemplation, we are usually unaware of our behavior; however, family, friends, and co-workers can usually perceive it. In contemplation, you are considering taking action but have yet to do so. “I’ll talk to the psychiatrist/psychologist next month after all my deadlines are finished” or insert other excuses here. Action requires the most time and energy and requires a modifiable behavior, experience, and/or environment to overcome one’s problems. Only you know how to take action and change your environment. Maintenance is infinite we have to continue to nurture ourselves physically, mentally, and emotionally. The transtheoretical model does not take into account the multidimensionality of how our emotional and physical beings are intertwined. You mold this to yourself.

3. Helping others: In helping others, you help yourself. Volunteering in [enter your city here], numerous opportunities arise. How about helping students from your alma mater? Donating? or Mentoring? Let’s, not forget about having acceptance and reappraisal with people. In helping others, we are enhancing our emotional and cognitive awareness decreasing our stress.

While these three actionable things will not help everyone, they are a start towards your path to beating [insert your story here]. So please hug your significant other, friend, stranger and get a coffee to talk about real emotions and get to the root of the issue.

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